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Cognitive distortion

Control Fallacies

Distorted beliefs about how much control you have.

Classic tell: Either I can control nothing, or I am responsible for everything. Neat little trap. Terrible floor plan.

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Further explanation

What is happening underneath?

Distorted beliefs about how much control you have.

Control gets distorted in either direction: none of it is yours, or all of it is. Both versions make reality harder to handle.

01

What it sounds like

  • Either I can control nothing, or I am responsible for everything. Neat little trap. Terrible floor plan.
  • "There is nothing I can do," followed five minutes later by, "Everything depends on me." A balanced nervous system, obviously.
02

How to tell

  • The thought cannot separate influence from responsibility.
03

Why people use it

  • Stress makes control feel either impossible or morally mandatory.
04

How to respond

  • Ask: "What can I control, influence, or release?"

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How this gets used on people.

  • High-pressure sales use control confusion: you are powerless without the product, but also responsible if you do not buy it.